Blindfolds, masks and gags can enhance any play session and offer a wonderful introduction into the world of BDSM. Remember, not all bondage play has to be laden with whips, chains and a dash of pain. Bondage can also be intensely romantic, soft and sensual, building trust between lovers whilst keeping relationships fun and fresh.
Blindfolds and Masks
A simple blindfold naturally heightens other senses as sight is obstructed creating an atmosphere of anticipation, sexual tension and excitement. Blindfolds and Masks help to build confidence for a partner that may worry about what their lover can see, opening up a world of opportunities to try new things. Masks can be a first step in to the world of role play allowing us to take on new identities and support our lover’s fantasies.
Like all sex toys, Gags come in a variety of styles, sizes and materials. They are designed to muffle the submissive partner during BDSM play, ensuring erotic moaning is softened. There are many different types of gags but ball gags are by far the most popular. Gags can be intimidating at first but find one that suits you and it can add an exciting edge to domination and submission play.
How to Get Started with Blindfolds, Masks and Gags
Establish a safe word or signal before you begin – this way you can both stop if one of you feels uncomfortable. Safe words and signals prevent any confusion in the heat of the moment. If a person is gagged a safe word will not work – giving them a small object to hold, such as a key, that can be dropped as a signal provides you both with the reassurance that play can be stopped immediately if one of you becomes uncomfortable.
Make a promise that when the safe word, signal or object is used play stops immediately.
Never use a gag if you are suffering with a cold, sinus infection or an upset tummy.
Never leave a gagged person alone.
Take your time. There is no need to jump in with both feet and attempt to use the wildest, biggest gags on the market. Your jaw takes time to adjust so start small and build your way up. A ball gag training kit is ideal.
Aftercare is crucial. Whilst this type of play is highly arousing and exciting, afterwards the submissive partner may experience negative feelings. Take time to reassure your partner of your love and respect. Lots of comforting hugs will help you both to ensure that only positive vibes remain.