Despite having been thrust into the limelight, in no small part by the popular TV show Broad City (the one where Abbi becomes a literal pegging legend), many misconceptions and stereotypes around pegging and strap on sex, remain.
This beginner’s guide to strap ons, looks to banish the outdated views that this type of play is only for selected crowds, namely the kink community and lesbians. The pleasure of strap ons has a much wider reach. Trust us, whatever sexual preference you have, you want in on this action.
So, let passionbugs share everything you need to know to get strap on sexy time nailed.
Table of Contents
- What is a Strap On?
- Who Can Use a Strap On?
- What is Pegging?
- Why Do People Enjoy Strap on Sex?
- Top Tips for First Time Strap On Sex
- Best Strap-Ons for Beginners
- In Conclusion
What is a Strap On?
Put simply, a strap on is a type of couples sex toy that allows one partner to penetrate the other. If we are being pedantic then the “strap on” is actually just the dildo element but it’s commonly used to describe the strap on kit as a whole.
Strap ons are traditionally a two piece sex toy consisting of a wearable dildo attached by a harness for use during sexual intercourse. The dildo is held in place by the harness, which attaches to the hips of the person wearing it.
There are many different types of straps on but they are usually a dildo style toy that can be either phallic or non-phallic.
But not all strap ons have straps… There are also strapless strap ons which are held in place by a vaginal plug (fabulous for a good pelvic floor workout too!)
Most dildos will be harness compatible.
Harness-compatible strap-on dildos are easily recognised by their wide circular bases. These enable you to attach them to the O-ring of a harness. Suction cup dildos are a great example. Their suction cups naturally lend themselves to fitting in an O-Ring making them even more versatile than first thought.
Who Can Use a Strap On?
The simple answer is, anyone can!
Strap-on dildos can be worn by all genders and by people of all sexual orientations. Whether you own a penis or a vagina, you can wear, and use a strap-on to penetrate your partner, or even yourself.
What is Pegging?
The term “pegging” was devised by renowned American sex columnist, Dan Savage back in the early 2000s and originally referred to the activity whereby a woman uses a strap on dildo to penetrate a man via his butt.
Fast forward a few years and the term “pegging” is used more widely to refer to anal sex using a strap on, between lovers of all genders and identity. Regardless of what they might be packing in their pants or their sexual orientation.
Why Do People Enjoy Strap on Sex?
There are lots of raunchy reasons to try strap on sex.
Anal Orgasms
Pegging provides access to all those wonderful juicy nerve ending in your bootie. In turn, this pleasure zone holds the key to supercharged orgasms. If you are yet to experience the magnitude of an anal orgasm then let us share with you why you need to get to this party, fast!
An anal orgasm is, as you’ve probably already guessed, an orgasm in your anus. Once the prize possession of gay men alone, people of all genders and sexualities are now discovering these knee shaking goals and claiming them for their own.
Because regardless of sexuality, anal orgasms feel incredibly different to orgasms achieved by vaginal penetration alone. Achieved by anal stimulation they are very easy to achieve, if you are prepared to put a little work in. Touching, fingering, penetration, use of anal sex toys and even licking are all great ways to get your booty buzzing.
An anal orgasm will feel far more intense than other orgasms. These seem to come from somewhere deep within you and are accompanied by an increase in heart rate and breathing. Waves of extreme pleasure will rise up to encompass your entire body for an orgasm that touches every single part of your body.
Role Play & Power Play
For many of us the taboo side of sex, the naughtiness or the rebellious aspects can be an extremely powerful turn on.
Strap On sex provides an erotic opportunity to topple stereotypical gender roles and undermine the traditional norms. After all, why can’t a woman take a man from behind? Let’s mix things up!
It can be incredibly empowering for a woman to take the more dominant role. And for the man it can be exciting to take the more submissive role. The power play opportunities are endless with pegging and strap ons.
Trying Something New in the Bedroom
Strap-ons enable anybody to experiment with different penetration sizes and girth, adding a new dimension to your sexy time.
Maybe you fantasise about a threesome but you don’t actually want to bring a third person into your relationship. A strap on can be a great substitute. Perhaps you dream about extra large dongs but you have no desire to cheat on your partner. Why not try a strap on instead?
You can use a strap-on for vaginal sex, anal sex, oral sex and even masturbation.
Managing Erectile Disfunction
There can be lots of reasons why ED occurs. It can be a one off thing, related to stress, tiredness, medication, or it can occur later in life. But whatever the reason, ED could put a stop to your sexy time. Don’t let it. It is still possible to enjoy a fulfilling sex life.
A strap on can be just the wingman you and your partner need, standing in for your own member when needed.
Top Tips for First Time Strap On Sex
Need a few hints how to get started. No problem, we’ve got you covered.
Get To Know Your Strap On
There is no getting away from it, the first time you put on a strap on it’s going to feel awkward.
You can tackle this two ways. You could try the suck it and see approach and dive straight in with your new strap on. And there’s nothing wrong with that.
Or you can get to know your strap on first, just like you might with any other sex toy.
When we are familiar with our toys, we tend to get the best out of them.
It may sound daft, but wearing your dildo about the house for mundane tasks such as housework, can help you get used to the feel or it, how it moves and how it responds to movement. See it as a rehearsal for showtime.
Stop Worrying About What You Look Like
When your new toy arrives, explore it as a couple. Even if only one of you intends on wearing it, you can both try it on.
It’s absolutely OK to laugh at yourself in fact you should laugh. If you are having sex and not laughing then you might well be with the wrong person.
Best Strap-Ons for Beginners
Check out passionbugs favourite Beginners Strap On Kits
Strap U Unisex Strap-On Harness Kit with 5 Inch Pegging Dildo
- Adjustable strap on harness with slim 5 inch silicone dildo.
- Dildo is curved to provide subtle stimulation to the prostate or g-spot.
- Pocket in harness means you can add a bullet vibe and really turn up the thrills.
- Non intimidating for curious couples wanting to explore pegging play.
- Dildo is fully removable for play with or without the harness.
Me You Us Beginner’s Unisex Strap-On Harness Kit with Pegging Dildos
- Adjustable crotchless harness for easy intimate access and total comfort.
- 2 fun looking interchangeable dildos that can be used with or without the harness.
- Suitable for both vaginal and anal penetration.
- Strong suction cups attach the dildos to any clean flat surface for hands-free riding.
Loving Joy Beginners Pegging Strap On Kit
- Adjustable strap on harness with 4.5 inch silicone dildo.
- The universal harness is equipped with 2 O-rings so you can interchange with other harness dildos.
- Suitable for both vaginal and anal penetration.
- Pocket in harness can house a bullet vibrator for added thrills
- Machine washable harness.
In Conclusion
Has this blog inspired you to have a stab (pun most definitely intended!) at strap on sex? If so, you may like to read our blog, What Do I Need to Know Before Getting a Strap On? or a guide to What Is Pegging?
Or maybe you are ready to just dive in. In which case let’s get shopping!
