Welcome to this fun filled guide to the best sex toy for beginners. Whether you’re dipping a tentative toe into the world of sex toys or you simply don’t know where to begin, this blog has it all. We’ll share everything we know about what makes the best toys for newbies. We’ll show you key features to look for in a beginners sex toy and we’ll show you a few of our recommended favourites. Not forgetting our top tips for how to use sex toys and how to keep play safe.
So get comfy and strap yourself in, this is going to be one hell of a good ride!
Table of Contents
- What Makes a Sex Toy Great for Beginners?
- Exploring Types of Beginner-Friendly Sex Toys
- The Top Rated Dildos for Newbies
- How to Use Your First Sex Toy Safely
- Cleaning and Maintenance Tips for Sex Toys
- Where to Shop for Your First Sex Toy
- Embrace Your New Journey with Confidence
What Makes a Sex Toy Great for Beginners?
Sex toys range from delightfully simple to impressively high-tech, with everything in between. The options open to us are on a scale never seen before. So it’s understandable that as a beginner, shopping for a sex toy might be a little overwhelming. But it doesn’t need to be. Here’s why…
For any sex toy to be suitable for newbies, it just needs to tick a few boxes:
| Key Feature | Why it’s important |
| Simple Design | These toys are often less intimidating as they look and feel easier to handle. |
| Ease of Control | Simple operation is key when starting out. Build your confidence with less complicated toys before stepping things up a gear. |
| Size | Smaller more compact sex toys are naturally easier to handle, easier to control and easier to get to grips with. |
| Affordable Price Tag | Think of it as testing the waters. By starting with a more affordable toy, you can explore what excites you, without splashing the cash. If you enjoy it, you’ll feel more confident investing in something pricier. Plus, cheaper toys let you try different experiences instead of committing to one expensive option. |
| Quiet | Many beginners prefer a whisper quiet toy. Quieter toys are less intrusive for play and can make all of us feel more confident during use. |
| Discreet | Lots of sex toys can be hidden in plain sight due to the fact they are discreet in their design. Whether they look like a lipstick, a rose or even a rubber duck, these toys can be a popular choice with both beginners and pros. |
More importantly than all of these features, the best sex toy for beginners is one that closely matches their curiosity, their needs and their desires. Give careful consideration as to what type of pleasure you enjoy and find a toy that can deliver those sensations. For example, if you know you enjoy penetration, a dildo could be a great first sex toy. If you want to experience oral sex then a clit sucker or a blow job sex toy would be ideal. Knowing what you want the toy to do for you is key.
Exploring Types of Beginner-Friendly Sex Toys
Now that we know what to look for in a beginner-friendly sex toy, let’s explore some of the most popular types of sex toys for beginners.
- Small Dildos: Petite dildos are a great first choice for beginners. Small, slim, and easy to handle, they’re lightweight and simple to use. Making them perfect for anyone exploring internal, penetrative play.
- Bullet Vibrators: The smallest and simplest of all vibrators. Their compact size and easy controls make them powerful little pleasure tools. They’re also super versatile, perfect for solo play or with a partner. Try using them on the clitoris, nipples, inner thighs, or even the penis.
- Finger Vibrators: Worn on the finger these intuitive and non-intimidating vibrators will tease and please any part of the body they touch.
- Mini Wands: A petite version of the classic vibrating wands these mini wands provide all over external stimulation. Entirely genderless they are intuitive in their control making a spicy addition to solo play and partnered play.
- Basic Butt Plugs: Smaller, slimmer plugs with flared bases and tapered tips are a great starting point for anyone curious about anal play.
- Cock Rings: Stretchy models that don’t require measuring for will prove easier for newbies. Worn for masturbation as well as sexual intercourse, these unassuming rings bring a whole heap of horny benefits and new sensations. Enjoy stronger erections and longer lasting performance plus some versions bring textures, vibrations and additional clitoral stimulation.
The Top Rated Dildos for Newbies
Beginner dildos are up there as possibly the best sex toy for beginners. Ideal for both vaginal and anal penetration, some users even practise blow jobs on them. The best dildo for beginners is one that is proportionally manageable. Look for a dildo that has no more than 6 inches in insertable length and is less than 5 inches in circumference. These slimmer, and less girthy dildos will provide all the fun of their larger counterparts but will be more comfortable for newbies.
Here are a few of our bestselling beginner dildos with an affordable price tag, should you need some inspiration…
The Loving Joy 5 Inch Beginners Dildo is a slimline dildo available in funky pink or purple. Made from a body-safe jelly type plastic, it is flexible enough to move with the contours of your body, yet flexible enough to provide plenty of penetrative stimulation.
Essential Details
| Features | Suction cup for hands-free play and harness play Realistic styling for authentic sensations |
| Waterproof | Yes |
| Circumference | 3 inches |
| Insertable Length | 5 inches |
| Total Length | 5.9 inches |
| Material | Body-safe plastic |
Let us introduce you to the Loving Joy Slimline Silicone Dildo. A non-realistic dildo for those not wanting a replica penis. This smooth and curved dildo is an expert at hunting down, and pleasing, both G-spots and P-spots alike.
Essential Details
| Features | A suction cup for riding hands free or experimenting with different positions Curved to reach both the g-spot and p-spot |
| Waterproof | Yes |
| Circumference | 3 inches |
| Insertable Length | 5 inches |
| Total Length | 5.5 inches |
| Material | Silky smooth silicone |
Looking for a lifelike dildo? Look no further than the Loving Joy Realistic Dildo with Balls and Suction Cup. From the realistic design to the raised veins, bulbous head and testicles, this dildo is the perfect bedroom buddy for those looking for real feel fun.
Essential Details
| Features | A suction cup for effortless handling hands Lifelike styling for immersive play |
| Waterproof | Yes |
| Circumference | 3.9 inches |
| Insertable Length | 5 inches |
| Total Length | 6.5 inches |
| Material | Body-safe plastic |
How to Use Your First Sex Toy Safely
Whether you plump for a dildo or a vibrator, a cock ring or a butt plug there are a few simple steps we can all take to make sure we use our first sex toy safely. Doing so will not only ensure safety during play, it will make play more fun, more comfortable and more satisfying.
Clean Before First Use
It might seem obvious however, lots of people don’t think to clean a sex toy straight out of its hygiene wrapper. But if we stop to think who may have handled it during production, and the process it has been through, then cleaning is a good idea before it probes your most intimate areas.
Lube, Lube and More Lube
A common mistake many newbies make is to overlook the importance (and talents!) of sex lube. Lube enhances safety as it helps any sex toy to move freely over the skin as well as in and out of the body. Lube reduces any risk of soreness or snagging and it helps our bodies to reach climax more easily.
Slow and Steady
Regardless of what sex toy you chose, not rushing is a must. Diving in (quite literally!) could result in discomfort or pain. Remember your body has limitations and needs time to adjust or accommodate the sex toy. So start on a low intensity setting where required and if your toy is penetrative, remember it doesn’t have to be fully inserted to begin with.
You Do You
Sex toys provide the opportunity to explore the body in a safe way, and at a pace to suit you. Only do what feels good for you. Never try to push the limitations of your body. If it doesn’t feel right or good then stop, adjust and go again.
Follow Manufacturers Guidance
This one sounds a non brainer but you’d be surprised… guidance is there to keep us safe and to prevent accidents. So if a toy says external use, keep it outside of the body. If a toy says not waterproof, don’t be taking it in the shower.
Make Hygiene a Priority
Sex toys are intensely intimate objects. Therefore they need to be clean at all times. Neglecting to keep them hygienic will result in harmful bacteria building up. This can lead to irritation, infections and the spread of STIs. None of which is good for your sexual health and wellbeing.
Cleaning and Maintenance Tips for Sex Toys
Talking of keeping everything spick and span, let’s look at the best way to keep your sex toys looking and performing at their best.
Step by Step Guide to Cleaning Waterproof Sex Toys
- Rinse thoroughly. Once play is over, rinse the toy under warm running water to remove bodily fluids and leftover lubricant. This needs to be done before any unwanted fluids start to dry.
- Apply a cleaning agent. Use a mild antibacterial soap or a sex toy cleaner. Gently rub the entire toy all over. Be sure to get into any ridges or nubs.
- Rinse again under more warm running water. You will need to remove all the soap or sex toy cleaner because if residue remains, this could cause irritation next time you play.
- Leave the toy to air dry on a clean towel, facecloth or kitchen paper. Storing a damp or wet toy will lead to mould. Mould will lead to bad smells and the deterioration of the sex toys material.
- Sex toys need to be stored in a cool, dark, dry place. This prevents accidental damage and keeps them clean. Sex toy storage also keeps your toys out of sight and away from curious kids or playful pets.
If a sex toy is not waterproof then it is important not to submerge the toy in any water. Instead, use a damp cloth to remove bodily fluids and leftover lube. Spray with a specialised sex toy cleaner. Leave for 30 seconds and then wipe dry with another clean cloth or kitchen paper.
It is important to inspect your sex toys on a regular basis. Checking for any signs of wear or tear will ensure safety and will alert you when the time has come for a toy to be replaced.
Where to Shop for Your First Sex Toy
When shopping for your first sex toy, finding a trustworthy retailer will make your shopping experience so much easier. Reputable retailers will ensure the whole process is stress-free and enjoyable. Here are our top tips for where to shop and why passionbugs ticks all the right boxes:
Shopping online is great for newbies as it removes any awkwardness or embarrassment. It also means you can shop from the comfort of your sofa or your bed, meaning you can take as much time as you like, or need.
- Reputable retailers will have helpful beginners sex guides and advice that provide valuable information for newbies.
- Look for detailed product information and clear images so you know exactly what you are buying.
- Read product reviews left by customers to gain insight into the products performance.
- Check out Trustpilot reviews for sex shops to ensure they meet your expectations in regards to customer service.
- Choose a retailer with a clear returns policy so that you can shop in confidence, should the product develop a fault or you change your mind.
- Ensure your chosen sex shop has discreet postage and packaging.
- Finally talk to your friends. Recommendations count for a lot when it comes to these types of purchases!
Embrace Your New Journey with Confidence
Now you are armed with all the know-how needed to get shopping for your first sex toy you should feel empowered and excited. Sex toys are here to be celebrated, to be embraced and to be used! Whether you choose to use them alone, with a partner or both, they can bring intimacy, adventure and sexual gratification.
Sex toys will take you on a journey of self-discovery. They are all about doing what feels good for you. There are no rights or wrongs, just do what you enjoy and how you enjoy it. Step forth with confidence. Your body, your orgasms and your partner will all thank you.
But if you still feel you need a little more preparation, that’s fine too. Why not check out some of our other sex guides and advice. They are a smorgasbord of sexy information just ripe for newbies.
