Curious to know the best way to insert a dildo? Looking for ways to ensure your dildo play is both comfortable and safe? Whether it’s your first time with a dildo or you’re looking to refine your technique, this comprehensive guide has you covered. From tips on how to insert a dildo, the best way to use a dildo and preparing your body to ensure a pleasurable and safe experience, we’ll explore everything you need to know about how to enjoy a dildo with confidence!
Table of Contents
- Understanding the Basics of Dildo Use
- Preparing for Your First Time with a Dildo
- Step-by-Step Guide on How to Insert a Dildo
- Finding the Right Angle and Depth for Comfort
- Maintenance and Hygiene Post-Use
- Choosing the Best Dildo for Beginners
- Explore Further: Integrating a Dildo into Your Routine
Understanding the Basics of Dildo Use
Dildos are a great tool for exploring your body, discovering what turns you on, practicing you sexual techniques, enhancing intimacy and bringing spice to any sexual experience. But there are few basics to be got right, before you can embark on those delightful dildo adventures. Here’s our steps to understanding the basics when it comes to using a dildo:
- Choose The Right Dildo – Think about material, size, shape and features. Getting these elements right will ensure you find a dildo that meets your unique likes and needs.
- Safety & Hygiene – Buying a dildo is one thing but knowing how to use it safely, is another. Hygiene is paramount with any sex toy if you want to maintain sexual health and wellbeing.
- Preparation – Fail to prepare and you prepare to fail. Yes, believe it or not there are preparation tips that will ensure your dildo ride is smooth and comfortable.
- How To Use a Dildo – When it comes to using a dildo, you can always try the suck it and see approach, and this can work just fine. But knowing a few basics about how to use a dildo, how to insert a dildo and the best angels for a dildo are all going to ensure your ride is as fun and as comfortable as possible.
This blog is going to cover all these basics to make sure you are armed with the “know how” to get the most from your dildos.
Preparing for Your First Time with a Dildo
If you haven’t used a dildo before then you might be slightly nervous but don’t worry, because using a dildo is actually very simple.
Get the Right Sized Dildo
If you are a beginner then it’s super important that you select a beginner’s dildo. These tend to be slimmer and more flexible than other dildos meaning they are easier to insert, easier to handle and easier to manage. Don’t be tempted to go too big to start with. Whilst a beginner dildo is small, they are no less satisfying or rewarding.
Clean Your Dildo
First and foremost you need to ensure the dildo is clean. It might have come in a hygiene wrap but that doesn’t mean it hasn’t collected dust or debris from the factory. Give is a good clean under warm running water with a mild antibacterial soap or sex toy cleaner.
Remember to Warm Up
Dildos are penetrative sex toys which means you need to be relaxed in order for the body to accept the dildo without discomfort. Getting yourself aroused in whatever way works for you, will help the body to warm up, get turned on and get ready for the dildo to penetrate. Warming up the mind is just as important as the body. For sex toys to work best, you need to be in the mood and free from everyday thoughts and distractions. Lighting candles, taking a long hot bath and listening to an erotic audio book can all help to get those good vibes flowing.
Grab the Lube
Sex lube should never be seen as an optional extra. In the case of dildos, a generous application of lube is going to make that dildo glide in and out effortlessly. You need to be sure that the lube you choose is suitable for the dildo. If you are in any doubt about which lube to choose, opt for a water based sex lube. These are compatible with all materials and condoms too. If you are using your dildo vaginally, focus on the vaginal opening and the dildo’s tip. If you are using your dildo anally, apply extra lube, as the anus doesn’t produce natural lubrication.
Step-by-Step Guide on How to Insert a Dildo
So, you’re all prepared. You’ve got that dildo sparkling clean, you’ve got yourself hot and horny and you’ve applied plenty of lube… now all that’s left to do is insert the dildo. How to put a dildo in might seem straight forward, and it is, but here are a few tips to make it go smoothly:
- Start off by getting into a comfortable position. Depending on whether you are using the dildo vaginally or anally, the position you choose needs to give you easy access to the entrance. This could be lying on your back, sitting or crouching over the dildo or standing with one leg propped up.
- To insert the dildo, hold it at its base and position the tip of the dildo at the entrance of your vagina or anus. Move the dildo head gently around the opening giving the body chance to adjust, before gently pressing against the vagina or anus to move the tip inside your body.
- Take your time. Start by only inserting the tip. Slowly push the dildo deeper inside. There is no need to take all of it in one go. Take only what feels good. Going too deep, too soon could lead to discomfort or pain.
- If you are inserting the dildo into your vagina, spreading the labia with your finger tips will aid insertion. If you are inserting the dildo anally, bearing down as you push will help. And for either orifice, taking deep breaths is a good way to slow the pace and give the body further opportunity to adjust.
Top tip – beginners might find it useful to stand, squat or sit in front of a mirror to help guide the dildo into position.
Finding the Right Angle and Depth for Comfort
Finding the right angle and depth is fundamental to comfort and maximum pleasure. Since everyone’s body is unique, finding what works best for you can take a little experimentation. But who cares… you’re going to have plenty of fun experimenting!
| Understand Your Anatomy | Knowing the basics of your orifices can help to position the dildo into a more comfortable position. Understanding where the erogenous zones are within our bodies can help us to guide the dildo to the sweetest spots. The vagina naturally curves up into the body, angling slightly towards the back bone. Angling the dildo towards the front of the body though, can help with g-spot stimulation. The anus and rectum curve upwards move sharply. Using a curved dildo can help those with a penis to reach the prostate gland. |
| Experiment With Depth | Starting shallow is important as it gives the body time to adjust to the penetration. But don’t be thinking you are missing out by only going in a little way. Oh no… the sensual nerve endings that make us feel so good are located 2-3 inches inside the vagina and just at the opening of the anus. Once you are comfortable and confident with the dildo you can try going deeper. Go slowly to begin and use steady rhythmical strokes before building the pace if you desire. |
| Try Different Positions | Different positions will offer a variety of levels of comfort and stimulation. Standing or sitting will feel very different to lying on your back or on your front. Different positions can also help you to achieve greater depths of penetration. Certain positions will also lend themselves to better angles. For example, the missionary position offers better control. Whilst standing with one leg elevated on a coffee table or chair, helps you to see where the dildo is going. |
Maintenance and Hygiene Post-Use
Once you’ve formed a bond with your dildo you’re going to want it to last for many years to come, so we recommend a good maintenance and hygiene routine. Taking proper care of your dildo will ensure it gives you the best performance at the same time as ensuring your sexual health and wellbeing.
Here are our top tips for the maintenance and hygiene of a dildo:
- Clean the dildo after every use. Cleaning is best done straight after play, before any leftover lube or bodily debris has a chance to dry and be absorbed into the dildo’s material.
- Ensure the dildo is 100% dry before storing it. Damp dildos can develop mould or mildew which, over time will cause unpleasant smells and could cause the surface of the dildo to break down.
- Storing your dildo in appropriate sex toy storage will help to prevent accidental damage whilst ensuring the integrity of the toy.
- Before using your dildo check it over for any signs of wear and tear. If you see cracks or splits in its surface, then its time to get rid.
Choosing the Best Dildo for Beginners
Choosing the best dildo for a beginner is easy when you know how. Focusing on comfort and ease of use is key. We recommend opting for a smaller, slimmer design that is both soft and flexible. Look for the simple designs as these will be easier to manage. Here are passionbugs favourite dildos for beginners:
Loving Joy 5 Inch Beginners Dildo
A slimline dildo with a smooth bulbous head for easy insertion. The flared suction cup base enables hands-free fun, anal play and use in a harness. Whilst the realistic styling makes for an authentic, lifelike experience. This dildo is available in both purple and pink.
ToyJoy Happy Dicks Realistic Suction Cup Dildo 7.5 Inch
A funky pink dildo, suitable for both vaginal and anal penetration. Crafted from a natural silhouette, this dildo may not look totally natural but it certainly feels it. Its strong suction cup provides hands free fun making it ideal for both solo play and partnered play.
SilexD Realistic Silicone Suction Cup Dildo with Balls 5.5 Inch
Realistically styled, this dildo with balls, promises to deliver a ride you won’t forget. The strong suction cup enables hands free riding whilst the suction cup also means it can be used with a harness for pegging and role play. The curved shaft makes hunting down, and targeting g-spots and p-spots a breeze. And because it is made from silky smooth silicone it is both comfortable and flexible.
Me You Us Classic Realistic Dildo Vibrator 6.5 Inch
This vibrant red vibrating dildo is just the ticket for penetrating pleasures. With it’s realistic veiny shaft and pronounced head it feels just like the real deal. But the fun doesn’t end there. This dildo comes with multi speed vibrations to explore, all at the touch of an easy twist control.
Me You Us Mounty 6 Suction Cup Realistic Dildo Vibrator 5 Inch
A vibrant vibrating dildo for penetrating pleasures. The suction cup will stick to any flat dry surface for hands-free play. With simple single speed control, let the vibrations combine with the realistically styled shaft for delightful dildo play that’s sure to satisfy. Fully waterproof, this dildo is just as at home in the shower, as is it is the bedsheets meaning you can take your fun anywhere your choose.
Explore Further: Integrating a Dildo into Your Routine
Dildos are such a versatile sex toy that they really shouldn’t be confined to just solo play. Here are just a few suggestions to make them a fun and useful addition to your daily routine.
- Stress Relief – Using a dildo is a fun way to destress. They offer an opportunity for some quality time away from the everyday stresses of life. Using a dildo to orgasm will also release lots of happy hormones such as dopamine, known to reduce stress levels.
- Morning & Evening Routines – Some people find dildo play before the working day can help to put them in a positive mood. Others find a little self-love at the end of the day, a great way to unwind.
- Exercise – Dildos offer a unique way to exercise. If you are looking to strengthen the Kegel muscles then try hopping on top of a suction cup dildo before rocking gently or performing pelvic thrusts. Squatting with a dildo is also an intense workout for the legs and upper thighs.
- Stamina Training – For those looking to be able to last longer in the bedroom, a dildo is the ideal tool for stamina training. Practising sexual techniques with a dildo can build sexual stamina as well as improve confidence.
Incorporating a dildo into your routine quite literally opens up new avenues for pleasure, self-exploration, and intimacy. By understanding these basic principles, preparing properly, and experimenting with different techniques and positions, you can ensure you get the best possible experience from your dildo play.
