Riding a dildo is an erotic, exciting and empowering way to explore both your sexuality and your body. In this latest blog from passionbugs we’ll look to cover everything from how to ride a dildo to the best positions for dildos. Plus we’ll share our favourite dildos for riding. We hope to give you all the top tips and tricks to make sure your dildo play is as good as it gets!
Table of Contents
- Preparing Yourself for the Experience
- Choosing the Right Dildo for Riding
- Finding the Best Position for Pleasure
- Experimenting with Rhythm and Angle Adjustments
- Techniques for Increased Sensation and Safety
- Exploring Further: Enhancing Your Experience
Preparing Yourself for the Experience
Before you hop aboard your dildo there are a few preparations that will go a long way to making every playtime feel like the ride of your life.
Pick Out the Right Type of Dildo
The dildo you choose to ride needs to meet your unique preferences. It should be the right size in length and girth to meet your level of comfort and experience.
Clean Your Dildo
We all know to clean a dildo after use, but cleaning it before play is also a good idea. It provides peace of mind that no dust or debris is going to end up going inside your intimate body parts. It’s also a great way of checking the dildo over just to make sure there are no cracks of splits.
Set the Scene
Creating a comfortable scene helps to set the mood for sensual play. Soft lighting, an ambient temperature, the removal of distractions and privacy will all combine to give you the perfect playground. When you feel physically and emotionally at ease, the body is naturally more relaxed meaning you are free to explore desires and immerse yourself fully in the moment.
Warm Up
To get the most from your dildo your mind, and your body need to be warmed up. This can take time so give yourself chance to relax. This is your special time so make the most of. Indulge yourself with a little masturbation, an erotic audio book or an adult movie. Warming up not only heightens arousal it also makes play safer as our muscles are more relaxed.
Get Lubed Up
Riding a dildo without lube is like riding a horse without a saddle; it’s perfectly possible but it’s going to get sore! If you plan on using your dildo anally then grab a bottle of quality anal lube. If you plan on vaginal penetration an everyday water based lube is fine.
Choosing the Right Dildo for Riding
The phrase “to ride a dildo” refers to the act of using a dildo for sexual pleasure by positioning yourself above it. More often than not, you will be sitting, kneeling, or straddling the dildo.
In order to be able to ride a dildo in this way its important to select a dildo that it up to the job. Here are a few considerations:
- First and foremost, select a dildo that is the right size for you. Comfort is key to safe play.
- Choosing a suction cup dildo will enable you to stick it to any flat, dry, clean surface. This helps to keep the dildo in place whilst you ride.
- A firmer dildo is easier to ride than a softer, more flexible dildo.
- Consider using sit on sex toys or sex machines.
- For anal riding, a flared base is an absolute must have. This will prevent unwanted travel and offer peace of mind.
- Find a dildo that is attractive to you. Aesthetics stand for a lot when it comes to getting turned on. Choosing a dildo that looks hot to you is important. It could be a ultra lifelike dildo or it might be a non-realistic glass dildo that’s pretty. If you get turned on by all thing out of this world then why not consider a fantasy dildo?
We’ve picked out some of our favourite dildos for riding.
Toy Joy Happy Dicks Dildo with Balls 7.5 Inch
The Toy Joy Happy Dick is a fun funky pink dildo with balls that is suitable for both vaginal and anal penetration. Crafted from a natural silhouette, this dildo may not look totally natural in colour, but it certainly feels like the real deal. Its strong suction cup makes it ideal for riding hands free.
SilexD Realistic Vibrating Dildo with Suction Cup and Balls – 8.5 Inch
This SilexD Vibrating Dildo is 8.5 inches of vibrating bliss that is sure to satisfy the heartiest of appetites. Realistically styled with raised ribbing and textured balls, this lifelike dong is ready to be ridden. And with 10 stimulating vibration modes to explore, your play possibilities are bountiful.
Doc Johnson Bust It Ejaculating Dildo 8 Inch
The Doc Johnson Bust It dildo takes authentic play to another level with its unique squirting ability. It’s generous girth combines with on demand squirting prowess for a ride that’s sure to see explosive results. Add to this its strong Vac-U-Lock suction-base and you not only have the perfect dildo for riding, you also have a versatile dong for harness play.
Fetish Fantasy Inflatable Hot Seat
The Fetish Fantasy Inflatable Hot Seat makes riding a dildo a breeze. Easy grip handles combine with a comfy seat to provide stability as your ride and bounce. Play as hard as you like, this bad boy can take it. With multi speed vibrations ready at the touch of wired controller with scroll wheel, this is the perfect sex machine for anyone serious about their pleasure.
Finding the Best Position for Pleasure
Looking for some inspiration as to how best to ride that dildo? Here are a few popular choices:
| Position | Method | Tips |
| Doggy Style | Stick the dildo to any clean, flat vertical surface. Get onto all fours and back onto the dildo – experiment with height to get the best angle. | Playing in front of a mirror can add visual excitement. |
| Cowgirl | Stick the dildo to a solid surface such as a chair, floor, coffee table or the edge of the bed. Then simply climb on top. Whilst this works best with a suction cup dildo, it can be done using a flared base dildo too. | Try rocking, fringing and circular motions to achieve different sensations. |
| Belly Down | Place your dildo onto a firm surface, ideally a clean floor. Facing belly down towards the floor, climb lie over the dildo and position it into the vagina or anus. Get comfortable and use your arms to help you thrust. | A vibrating, warming or rotating dildo can bring another dimension of stimulation to your play. |
| Spit Roast | You’ll need a partner for this one. Position the suction cup dildo on a wall. Get onto all fours. Invite your partner to penetrate your mouth, anus or vagina and use the dildo for a second orifice. This creates the illusion of a threesome without needing someone else in the bedroom. | Experiment with different depths and speed to bring those fantasies alive. |
Experimenting with Rhythm and Angle Adjustments
Getting the rhythm and angle of your dildo just right will significantly enhance play. Not only do different rhythms and angles provide a wide variety of sensations, they also help to maximise comfort helping to keep play safe.
Vary The Rhythm
Rhythms are a sure fire way to get the body excited. Proven, tried and tested, get the rhythm right and you are half way to climaxing.
- Start Slow: Gentle, slow movements give the body time to adjust as well as creating sexual anticipation.
- Dial It Up: Gradually increasing the pace that you bounce, thrust or grind will further build the anticipation and heighten arousal.
- Give Pulsing or Pausing a Go: Why not mix up the sensations further by alternating between steady thrusts and pauses?
- Create Patterns: Combine your favoured speed with a pulse, a pause, rocking, or circular movements to come up with pleasurable patterns.
Play With the Angles
The first question to ask yourself is: vertical or horizontal? Sticking your dildo to a vertical surface means surfaces such as a wall, door, cupboard, the side of the washing machine, the shower wall or an upright mirror. Attaching your dildo to a horizontal surface would see it on a coffee table, the edge of the bed, the kitchen work surface, a desk or the ledge of the bath. Let’s weigh up the pros and cons for both options.
| Pros | Cons | |
| Vertical | Ideal for anal penetration as you can get onto all fours and simply back up. Vertical surfaces such as walls are usually very sturdy minimising the risk of movement during play. | If using the dildo vaginally there are really only two options; you face it or you back onto it. If you are looking for g-spot or p-spot stimulation you will need to use a dildo with a curved shaft. |
| Horizontal | Horizontal surfaces tend to lend themselves to greater control. Coffee tables, chairs and bedside units are often more manoeuvrable enabling the less acrobatic amongst us to straddle and ride with less fuss. Horizontal surfaces are usually pieces of furniture that can be moved into a playroom, an area of privacy and away from the rest of the household. | Height of the surface should be considered. Too high and how are you climbing aboard? Too low and you might struggle unless you have particularly strong thighs. |
Techniques for Increased Sensation and Safety
The best way to ride a dildo will always be way that puts safety first. But don’t worry, we’re not going to go all red tape and health & safety on you because, with safety comes increased sensations. So it’s a win, win situation!
Here are passionbugs top tips for sensational sensations and safe play.
- Lube – lashings of luscious lube will not only reduce friction and help the dildo to move freely in and out of the body, it also magnifies sensations for even more stimulation.
- Warm Up – getting both the body and mind in the mood enables you to fully immerse yourself in your play. Playing without distraction, free from stress and fully immersed, helps to build a more fulfilling and satisfying orgasm.
- Position – finding a position that works best for you and your dildo not only ensures comfort, it guarantees a better experience. Combine the right type of dildo with a good position and you wont go far wrong.
- Listen to your body – your body is expert at knowing what it wants so do what feels good. If your body shows any signs of discomfort or pain, stop play immediately.
- Condoms – Condoms not only provide a barrier should you wish to share your dildo with a partner, they can also bring another level of sensation. Ribbed or dotted condoms offer additional tasty textures to inject further thrills.
Cleaning and Care Post-Use
After riding your dildo its crucial that you give it a little TLC. Cleaning and proper storage are key to a long and health lifespan.
Quick Step-by-Step Guide to Cleaning a Dildo
- Rinse immediately with warm water to remove left over lube and residue.
- Wash all over with a mild antibacterial soap or sex toy cleaner. Use your hands or a soft cloth to rub the dildo all over.
- Rinse thoroughly to ensure all soap or toy cleaner has been removed. Any remaining cleaning products could cause irritation next time you play.
- Leave to dry. Air drying is best, but if you don’t want your dildo standing around for others to see, then give it a good rub down with a clean towel.
- Once dry, store your dildo away from sources of direct light or heat, preferably in designated sex toy storage.
Exploring Further: Enhancing Your Experience
Once you’ve got the hang of riding a dildo there is so much more you can begin to explore. Here are just a few suggestions for ways to enhance your experience even further for some truly amazing sexual adventures.
Combine dildo play with oral sex (or as we like to call it “Blow and Bounce”). One person rides the dildo whilst giving oral sex to their partner. Or if you are feeling extra saucy, one person rides a dildo whilst you both perform a 69. Yes, it’s going to take a bit of practice but you’re going to have lots of fun trying.
For long-distance lovers, using a dildo to put on a live show during video calls can bridge the physical gap. It’s an intimate way for you both to share fantasies and strengthen those emotional and sexual bonds that can sometimes be lacking.
Consider choosing a dildo with added features such as warming, rotating, thrusting, vibrating, squirting or even remote control. Additional functionality offers a plethora of orgasmic opportunities during play.
Double Up – Once you have mastered how to ride a dildo you can take your play up a level by tag teaming with other sex toys. Double the toys can mean double the fun. Butt plugs, anal beads, nipples suckers and bullet vibrators are all great bed partners for dildos.
Finally, how about a bit of temperature play? Cooling your dildo in the fridge or iced water will provide new and exciting sensations. As will warming the dildo. Combine this with ice cubes to really ramp up the raunchiness.
