Buying a strap-on is exciting, it’s fun and it’s also an investment. But before you go splashing the cash, there are a few things to bear in mind if you want to get a raunchy return on your money. In this blog passionbugs wants to help you answer the question “What do I need to know before getting a strap-on?” by giving you everything you need to know!
First of all, stop and think about the following 5 points… If you can answer these 5 points confidently then you don’t need to be reading this blog at all, you must be a pro so get shopping instead.
But if you can’t, then we suggest you make a cuppa and carry on reading… This may feel a bit like homework. But if you want to get a strap-on that’s going to meet your expectations then it’s got to be worth it right?
Consider…
- Do you understand what strap-ons are and what they can be used for?
- Think about the type of sexual activity you want to use a strap-on for
- Decide on a budget before shopping around
- Consider ease of use – first timers will want a simple, less intimidating model to begin with
- If you have a partner, talk about these considerations and choose something together that you will both feel comfortable with
What Do I Need to Know Before Getting a Strap-On?
What Is a Strap-On?
Put simply, a strap on is a type of couples sex toy that allows one partner to penetrate the other. They are a two piece sex toy consisting of a wearable dildo and a harness or underwear. There are also strapless strap ons which are held in place by a vaginal plug. There are many different types of straps ons but they are usually a dildo style toy that can be either phallic or non-phallic. They come in every conceivable size, shape and colour. Some are vibrating and some are even remote or app controlled.
What Is the Point of a Strap-On?
Strap-ons were once considered the exclusive property of lesbians. Perhaps because the media, including the porn industry would have us believe so, but whilst this is a popular fancy for many, strap-ons are far more versatile than that. They can be used for a whole heap of horny fun.
- Pegging
- Experience penetrating a partner in a new way
- An opportunity to experiment with different girths and sizes
- Double penetration
- The illusion of a threesome
- Role Reversal
Pegging
Strap-ons are the perfect tool for pegging play. Pegging is the sexual act in which one partner penetrates their partner’s anus usually with a strap-on dildo. This type of strap on sex allows you to explore different areas of your partner’s body that have up to now been out of reach. Being able to reach all those juicy booty nerve endings can give them a stronger, more powerful orgasm.
Strap-ons enable us to experience penetrating our partner in new ways. Up until strap-ons, a woman penetrating a man was near enough impossible. But now – well, the possibilities are endless. And it’s not just the butt that can be penetrated. Strap-ons can be used for both vaginal and oral sex too as well as being a great tool for masturbation.
These sensual dildos also provide the chance of experimenting with different sizes and girths without needing to change our partner. They allow us to live out our fantasies too, such as using a double penetrator to give the illusion of a threesome.
If you’re looking to use your toy for anal play then you may want to choose an anal specific dildo. Wanting to make believe a threesome? Then a double dildo will be best. And if you are wanting to imagine your partner with a much bigger and girthier member, then you need to be hunting down the large dildos.
Not forgetting that strap-ons are a really handy trick to have up your sleeve if you suffer with Erectile Dysfunction because nothing should stop you from enjoying a full sex life.
How to Discuss Using a Strap-on With Your Partner?
Whilst strap-ons can be used for masturbation, they are more commonly used for couples play. The decision as to which strap-on to purchase should be a joint one. After all this is going to be something you both want to enjoy.
As with any other sex toy, it’s best not to surprise your lover by whipping out a 12 inch dong mid-way through sexy time. You could end up scaring the hell out of them and putting them off for life. Introduce the topic into conversation beforehand. Ask them how they would feel about bringing sex toys into the bedroom. Ask them about their desires and their fantasies. If they have reservation or doubts, be careful to listen to these, respect their opinions and not force your own needs or wants onto them.
Sex toys including strap-ons can bring couples closer and help to build trusting relationships but only if there is mutual respect.
If your partner agrees to strap-on sex, choose the toy together… this can be a really fun and very arousing activity to share.
How Much Do You Want to Spend on a Strap-On?
Whenever you are trying something for the first time, it is always recommended that you don’t jump straight in and purchase the all singing, all dancing most expensive version first. Afterall… you don’t even know if you’re going to like strap-on sex yet (the odd are that you will but… just in case) Choosing a more affordable model first allows you to try things out before committing your pennies.
All passionbugs sex toy categories have a filter by price option so you can set your budget, making it easy to find a toy that fits your pocket.
What Do I Need to Know Before Getting a Strap-On Kit for Beginners?
If you are a first timer to the joy of strap-ons, then a beginner’ strap on kit is going to be a great starting point. The beginner kits come with everything you need when starting out so you haven’t got to be checking if dildos are compatible with harnesses and what harness size will fit best. Beginner strap-on kits have adjustable straps making them one size fits most. Super simple, easy and practical.
Here are a few of passionbugs bestselling strap-ons for beginners.
Loving Joy Beginners Pegging Strap On Kit
- Adjustable strap on harness with 4.5 inch silicone dildo.
- The universal harness is equipped with 2 O-rings so you can interchange with other harness dildos meaning you can go for larger dildos once you are confident with wearing and using your strap on.
- Suitable for both vaginal and anal penetration.
- Pocket in harness can house a bullet vibrator for added thrills
- Machine washable harness.
Happy Rabbit Rechargeable Vibrating Strap-On Harness Set
- A luxurious unisex harness with 5 inch vibrating rabbit dildo.
- 15 thrilling vibration modes to explore.
- Suitable for both vaginal and anal penetration.
- Adjustable straps for a secure and comfortable fit. For waists up to 67 inches.
- Equipped with 3 O-rings so you can interchange with other harness dildos.
Me You Us Beginner’s Unisex Strap-On Harness Kit with Pegging Dildos
- Adjustable crotch-less harness for instant intimate access and total comfort.
- 2 fun looking interchangeable dildos that can be used with or without the harness.
- Suitable for both vaginal and anal penetration.
- Strong suction cups attach the dildos to any clean flat surface for hands-free riding.
Strap U Unisex Strap-On Harness Kit with 5 Inch Pegging Dildo
- Adjustable strap on harness with slim 5 inch silicone dildo.
- Dildo is curved to provide subtle stimulation to the prostate or g-spot.
- Pocket in harness means you can add a bullet vibe and really turn up the thrills.
- Non intimidating for curious couples wanting to explore pegging play.
- Dildo is fully removable for play with or without the harness.
We hope this has armed you with what you need to know before getting a strap on, and has given you the confidence to take the plunge. Why not check out our other sex guides for more top tips and advice.
