Keen to ensure your backdoor game is on point? Whether you’re a curious beginner or just looking to brush up on the basics, knowing what to do before anal is key to levelling up your anal adventures. From prep to play, winging it simply won’t to cut it. So, if you’ve been Googling how to prepare for anal sex and drowning in a sea of conflicting advice, don’t worry—we’ve got your backside covered (literally). As well as sharing some of our favourite anal sex toys, this guide looks at the must-do steps to take your anal play from “meh” to mind-blowing!
Table of Contents
- Understanding Anal Preparation Basics
- Choosing the Right Lubricant
- Relaxation Techniques for Comfort
- Step-by-Step Cleaning Guide
- Selecting Suitable Toys for Beginners
- Addressing Common Concerns and Myths
Understanding Anal Preparation Basics
Anal play can be truly incredible. But, (pun totally intended), it’s knowing what to do before anal that gives you the most fun.
Key stages that set the stage:
Prep the Peach: While most of us would like to think we keep ourselves in pretty good shape, it doesn’t harm to have an extra rinse. A quick warm shower or bath, usually does the trick, but you can also use a gentle anal douche for extra sparkle.
Cue the Backdoor Vibes: Get in the mood by setting the scene. Music, soft lighting and candles create a soothing ambience to help relax mind, body and in particular… those butt cheeks.
Lube, Lube and more Lube: The butt doesn’t self-lubricate so going in dry isn’t going to be pleasant, or safe. Unlike vaginal play, lube is not optional.
Warm It Up Before You Back It Up: Any anal play is going to feel a whole lot sweeter if the butt is relaxed. Going in cold is about as unprepared as it gets so indulge in a little warm up. Finger play, a slim butt plug, anal probe or a booty massage are all arousing options.
Talk Before You Twerk: If you’re playing with a partner it’s important to chat through expectations, boundaries and desires. Rear talk needs to be clear talk if play is going to be mutually rewarding.
Follow these easy steps, and booty bliss awaits!
Choosing the Right Lubricant
Remember lube isn’t optional—it’s a must. Stick with something body-safe and long-lasting. Water-based is toy-friendly and easy to clean, while silicone’s slick and built for prolonged play (just don’t mix it with silicone toys). Skip the numbing creams and gels—if something hurts, you need to feel it. Trust your body, lube it up, and slide into good times safely.
Relaxation Techniques for Comfort
When it comes to knowing what to do before anal remember a relaxed booty is a happy booty. The following techniques can help to chill butt muscles and the more relaxed you are, the more comfortable (and pleasurable) you’ll be.
- Deep breathing – Inhale, exhale, unclench. Repeat as needed
- A warm bath – Soothes anal muscles (plus it freshens everything up)
- Sensual massage – Butt, back, or full-body
- Background music – Focuses attention on you and your body
- Take your time—There’s no rush to the tush
Step-by-Step Cleaning Guide
If you’re wondering what to do before anal to feel clean, confident, and ready for action, here’s a simple step-by-step cleaning guide to help you prep that peach like a pro:
- Empty those bowels – if you’re planning ahead, give the throne a visit. Doing this an hour before play makes room for guests.
- Start with a shower – Scrub-a-dub that booty with plenty of warm water and gentle soap. No need to go too deep—just focus on the outside.
- Douche: This bit is optional. Use an anal douche, a simple anal device that is first filled with lukewarm water and inserted gently. Squeeze, and then let the water run out. One or two rinses should do it. Give your body 15–30 minutes to settle post-douche before commencing play. Top tip – douching in the shower is quick and easy to clean up.
- Wipe check: A quick swipe with toilet paper or a baby wipe can offer peace of mind that everything is sparkling behind.
- Dry off & relax: Pat dry and get cozy. You’re clean, confident, and ready to roll.
Cleaning before anal play not only keeps things hygienic, it will help you to feel more confident (especially when playing with a partner). After all, a clean booty is an inviting booty!
Selecting Suitable Toys for Beginners
Now you are armed with everything you need to know about what to do before anal, you might be thinking about anal toys to treat your booty. Here are our favourite anal toys for beginners:
Best Beginner Anal Beads
You can’t go wrong with the Fifty Shades of Grey Pleasure Intensified anal beads. With graduated beads you can choose to go as deep or as wide as you fancy. With a finger loop for easy insertion and retrieval, plus a stunning storage bag for discretion and storage – these beads look as good as they feel.
Perfect Anal Prober
If you’re looking for ideas on how to prepare for anal sex then the Smoothy Anal Prober is a great choice. The perfect warm up weapon, first anal sex toy and introduction to anal sex, this probe is slim enough to feel comfortable and unintimidating, yet stimulating enough to arouse and delight.
Best Beginner Butt Plug
We just adore the CalExotics Power Gem butt plug. All singing, all dancing – this luxurious silicone plug has it all. 10 exhilarating vibration modes, USB rechargeable and fully waterproof, it comes complete with a travel lock to avoid unwanted attention. Slimline, smooth, silky and set with a sparkling gem, this plug brings glam to the bedroom.
Best for Pegging
The Fetish Fantasy Beginner’s Strap-On Harness Kit For Him, is just the thing to satisfy his anal cravings. Mix things up with some role reversal or power play. The harness is both durable and comfortable. 4-way nylon straps make for easy adjustments to fit most sizes while the plush-lining ensures absolute comfort when the passion heats up.
Addressing Common Concerns and Myths
It’s totally normal to have some apprehension. Perhaps you’re worried it’ll hurt? That it’s “dirty”? Or that it’s just not for you? You might even be thinking is anal play safe? (which it is by the way, providing you prepare well and follow guidance). All natural and you’re not the first to have these concerns. But let’s clear the air. With plenty of prep, plenty of lube, clear communication and a little bit of knowledge, anal play shouldn’t be painful. In fact is should feel amazing. As for cleanliness, well your body does most of that work already. You just need to do a quick rinse. And if you’re worried that enjoying anal play makes a statement about your sexual identity—it just means you like what you like.
Myths and nerves are common, but knowledge (and lube!) is power. So what are you waiting for? Go forth and dive deep.
Curious for more? You’re in the right place. We’ve got all the cheeky anal sex guides you need to explore anal play with confidence. So grab a cuppa—or pour yourself a glass of wine—and settle in. Your booty adventure starts here.
