Sex Whips, Crops & Canes

Understanding Sex Whips, Crops and Canes

You could be forgiven for thinking this band of bondage toys are all one and the same thing. But the truth is, sex whips, crop and canes have their very own unique sets of skills. Let’s explore them in more detail and help you to choose the perfect one for your desires.

What Is a Sex Whip?

A sex whip is exactly what you might imagine it to be, it’s a whip that is used for sexual pleasure. Sex whips come in a variety of styles, including floggers, which have multiple tails for an arousing thud sensations, and single-tail whips, for more intense stinging sensations. Depending on how the whip is used it can provide a range of erotic experiences from gentle strokes to intense, tingling and smarting impacts. Sex whips usually consists of a handle and multiple soft or firm strands. Whips are usually made from materials such as leather, faux leather, suede, or silicone.

What Is a Sex Crop?

Similar in appearance to a riding crop, sex crops have long been associated with dominatrices as a symbol of female power. This type of impact toy usually consists of a slim, flexible shaft with a small, flat tip made of leather or faux leather. Their shaping allows for precise, controlled strikes, that are capable of delivering anything from light taps to sharp, intense sensations. Intensity comes down to how it is used, and in particular, the force with which the spank is delivered.

What is a Sex Cane?

A sex cane is the firmer impact toy of the gang. Its rigid, slender rod will deliver sharp, intense sensations. Typically made from rattan, bamboo, or acrylic, canes are known for their vicious precision and ability to create deep, lasting pleasurable pain ranging from a light tap to a sharp, stinging strike. Their firm structure allows for controlled, rhythmical strikes or more intense punishment-style play, depending on the user’s preference.

Sex whips, crop and canes are typically associated with dominance and submission play forming an integral part of BDSM. They bring an element of anticipation and control to play. They can be used to tease, discipline, and heighten pleasure, making them a firm favourite with lovers of bondage, kink and role play.

How to Choose Your Next Whip, Crop or Cane

A single well-timed spank can be the sexiest thing ever so let’s explore how to choose the right impact toy for maximum pleasure. Above all, your chosen toy needs to align with your personal preferences, needs, and desires. That said, here are a few key factors to consider when choosing a sex whip, crop, or cane.

Level of Intensity: Think about your pain tolerance and desired experience when selecting a toy. If the toy is for a partner, talk to them about what they want this sex toy to do for them. Sex whips can provide a broader reaching surface area for less concentrated impact. Floggers tend to deliver a thud type sensation. For those seeking forceful and penetrating spanking, a cane or crop may be more to their liking. Be careful to also consider your own experience levels as these too can be a deciding factor.

Type of Material: The type of material you choose alters the experience. For example, rigid materials such as metal or wood will make for more severe pleasure. Softer materials such as suede, will be a little kinder to the body. If you are new to spanking it’s probably best to avoid single tail whips, just until you have built up your pain threshold as these types of sex whips are particularly unforgiving. Beginners, or those seeking something less extreme could look for rubber or silicone toys as these provide a mix of sting and control.

Visual Appeal: Sometimes it can be as simple as choosing a whip, crop or cane that is visually arousing to you and your partner. If you look at a particular whip and it instantly gets you hot under the collar, then go for it.

Level of Experience: You can try the suck it and see approach with any of these impact toys. It’s fun and as long as you apply a little common sense, its perfectly safe too. But it is worth noting certain spanking toys are easier to control, than others.

• Sex Whips: For these to work best, they require skill and precision. Pinpointing their impact takes practice.
• Floggers: Possibly the easiest to control. They can be used to stroke and tease as well as provide a satisfying spanking.
• Crops & Canes: Their smaller impact area means hitting the right spot may take practice.

How to Use Sex Whips, Crop and Canes 

Some days you just need a hug… on the butt with a paddle and there are plenty of ways to do it. Sex whips, crops and canes are versatile sex toys that can be used during foreplay, for fun, for roleplay and even during sexual intercourse.

During Foreplay

There’s nothing like building sexual anticipation to set pulses racing. The feeling of a whip, crop or cane running along the skin is sure to awaken nerve endings, warming you up for the main event. Tease your lover with light strokes before delivering stronger impacts to build suspense. Use pauses between strikes to let sensations settle and intensify the pleasure. Introduce dirty talk or verbal control, guiding your partner’s responses and adding a psychological edge to play. A well-timed slap across the buttocks or thighs can amplify arousal during oral sex too.

During Sex

Since impact play can be intense, open communication is key. Check in with your partner throughout. Certain sexual positions lend themselves to spanking. Doggy style and bent over a surface are great positions for incorporating impact play during intercourse. But if you prefer missionary, there is nothing stopping you gently spanking or stroking the chest, breasts and stomach during sex. Power play can be highly arousing for some couples with many using it as a way to stop climax until permission is granted. And never underestimate the power of sensory deprivation. Why not add a blindfold, gag or restraints to further heighten sexual anticipation?

Playing Safely

However you use these toys, its important that you communicate with your partner before play commences. Be honest about your likes and dislikes. Play needs to be consenting and it can be a good idea to agree a safe word to ensure play stays comfortable to everyone involved. Always use sex whips safely and discuss boundaries with your partner before play begins. 

After Care

Aftercare is super important for everyone involved. Emotions have run high, endorphins have been racing, but now play is done we need to keep those good vibes flowing. Here’s our top 3 tips for post play to ensure comfort and emotional well-being:

1. Check in with each other – talk about how you feel and affirm your love and respect for each other. Offer words of reassurance and praise.
2. Soothe the skin – Impact play can quite literally leave its mark so gently rubbing the skin, kissing or applying a cooling lotion can offer relief and comfort. Gently rub, kiss, or apply a cooling lotion to areas that received impact.
3. Offer lots of cuddles – Hugs, holding hands, or simply staying close can reinforce intimacy and demonstrate the respect you have for each other. Wrapping up in a warm cost blanket can also help when post-play endorphin drops.

Shop Sex Whips and Other Bondage Toys

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