Strap Ons & Harnesses
Strap-ons & harnesses are the perfect penetrating sex toy combo. Ideal for indulging in pegging, role play and role reversal, strap-ons can add a new dimension to your erotic adventures. But which one is for you? A realistic strap-on? A strapless strap on or a vibrating strap on? Looking for just a Strap on harness, no problem... we have those too!
What are Strap-Ons?
Put simply, strap-ons are a type of couples sex toy that allows one partner to penetrate the other. They are a two piece sex toy consisting of a wearable dildo attached either by a harness, or underwear, for use during sexual intercourse. There are also strapless strap ons which are held in place by a vaginal plug. There are many different types of straps ons but they are usually a dildo style toy that can be either phallic or non-phallic.
Strap-on sex has taken the world by storm and it’s easy to see why when you understand what joys these simple sex toys can bring. So, for those of you who are new to this craze, let us give you a basic rundown of your orgasmic options:
Hollow Strap-Ons
Perfect for penis owners; hollow strap ons can be used whilst both flaccid and erect. Using a hollow strap-on during sex enables you to have a strong, long-lasting erection ensuring both partners enjoy the moment for a long as they need to get total satisfaction. hollow strap-ons can be used as a penis extension giving you a bit more length and a bit more girth. Because who doesn’t enjoy an extra helping! They are also a super aid to erectile dysfunction, taking pressure of you and allowing you to continue having intimate physical relationships.
Strapless Models
This one is just for vagina owners. The shorter end is worn inside the vagina, whilst the longer end is used to penetrate the other partner. As a result, strapless strap ons will give you have all the fun of a strap-on without the straps and without the harness. Using a strapless strap on can provide a more intimate experience as there is nothing in the way during your play.
Strap-On Kits
To penetrate or be penetrated? That is the question! Whatever the answer, strap-on kits have everything you need to get started opening the door to the exciting world of hand-free pegging, role reversal and power play. A strap on kit will usually include an adjustable harness and a harness dildo. Most harnesses have an O-Ring at the front, to which the dildo is attached. Dildos can usually be changed using the O-Ring so you can use any harness compatible dildo in your collection, keeping things fresh and exciting.
Vibrating Strap-Ons
A vibrating strap-on is possibly the ultimate strap-on. Why? Because they come with the added excitement of vibrations. Vibrations are delivered into the shaft meaning both the penetrator and the penetrated get the thrill of another dimension of sensation. Top tip – if you don’t have a vibrating strap-on or dildo, try adding a stretchy vibrating cock ring to the dildo instead. Pop it over the top, roll it to the base and hey presto…an instant vibrating strap on!
Realistic Strap-Ons
A realistic strap on is pretty much a strap on penis. They are shaped and textured to feel and look like a real penis. And just like real ones, these dildos come in every size, colour and shape. Choose from a small strap on to big strap ons.
Who Can Use Them?
Literally anybody can! It is a common misconception that only lesbians use strap ons but thanks to porn this has become a stereotypical view of these toys. And whilst many happy lesbians are enjoying the delights these dildos bring, so are many other couples.
Vagina Owners may use them for exploring penetration play with their same sex partner.
Heterosexual couples may use them to explore pegging. Penis owners may use them as an aid to to erectile dysfunction or as a penis extension to add more length and girth.
Strap-ons enable anybody to experiment with different penetration sizes and girth, adding a new dimension to your sexy time. All things considered, these simple toys are quite simply a must have whatever gender or sexuality you are.
How to Use Strap-Ons
To get comfortable, wear the strap-on around the house to familiarise yourself with how it feels. Practice different hip movements and how the dildo moves in the harness. Start with simple positions like lying on your back or sitting while your partner straddles you. As you get more comfortable, try more intense positions like doggy style. Focus on grinding, as G-Spot and P-Spot stimulation respond better to pressure than thrusting. Communicate with your partner by asking how things feel and adjusting as needed. For hygiene, clean the dildo between uses or use a condom to minimise cleanup.
Strap On Sex Safety
The best sex is safe sex. Here are our top tips for safe strap on sex.
Plenty of Lube
Regardless of what hole your strap on is diving into, you are going to need lube. There are no rules about which lube to use but if you are indulging in anal play then an anal lube will be best and if you have a dildo made of silicone avoid a silicone lube.
Agree a Safe Word
Before you begin agree a safe word. A good safe word is something that can’t be mistaken to mean something else. Fruits such as Pineapple or Kiwi, make great safe words as they cannot mean anything other than what they are. A safe word is the word we use to say stop I’ve reached my comfort limit. When the safe word is used all parties agree to stop instantly. Having a safe words in place means we can still role play and be kinky with language such as “No” or “I don’t like it” without any confusion. This builds trust between partners and ensures everyone is happy and comfortable with the sexual activity.
Have Fun
Don’t forget to have fun. Strap ons can feel and look a little daft to begin with and that’s fine. So have a giggle, enjoy the moment and share in the laughter. Because let’s face it, if you cant laugh during sex, you probably aren’t doing it with the right person.
Using a Strap On for Solo Play
These marvellous sex toys are not just for sharing with your partner. Much like a suction cup dildo they are perfectly capable of getting you off without the assistance of another body. Simply strap the strap on to a chair, a coffee table, a couple of pillows or even the headboard.
Best Sex Positions For Strap on Sex
- Missionary – Possibly the easiest; the receiving partner lies on their back whilst the penetrating partner is on top. Mix it up by having the receiving partner legs up in the air. The penetrating partner can support if needed. This elevation gives another depth for a more intense sensation.
- Doggy Style – Most of us are familiar with this one as it’s great for G-Spot and P-spot stimulation. The receiving partner is on all fours whilst the penetrating partner is on their knees inserting the strap on from behind.
- Standing Doggy – Similar to doggy style only standing up. This is a great position for those wanting to assert a little more dominance.
Mix it up by having the receiver bend over furniture such as a desk, the kitchen counter or the side of the sofa. - Spooning – One for the romantics. Both of you lie on your sides, this could be on the bed, on the sofa or even a big fluffy rug in front of the fire. The penetrating partner behind the receiver. This position enables lots of cuddles and intimacy whilst you play.
Frequently Asked Questions
What is pegging?
Pegging is the term used for the sexual act in which someone penetrates another person’s anus usually with a strap-on dildo or pegging sex toys. This type of strap on sex allows you to explore different areas of your partner’s body that have up to now been out of reach. Being able to reach all those juicy booty nerve endings can give them a stronger, more powerful orgasm. Pegging also provides the chance to play with power play – something some couples find highly arousing.
Who can wear a strap-on?
Previously it was thought that strap-on sex was only for a limited group of people, namely lesbians and the kink-inclined. This simply isn’t the case anymore as people realise the opportunities these fabulous sex toys can provide. Strap-on dildos can be worn by all genders and people of all sexual orientations. Whether you own a penis or a vagina, you can wear, and use a strap-on to penetrate your partner.
Does pegging make you gay?
No pegging does not make you gay. Pegging is just an amazing way to penetrate your partner and experiment with role reversal. This can be incredibly intimate and exciting in equal measure. For a heterosexual man it can be an incredible turn on to be penetrated by his lover. For a heterosexual woman, pegging can be an erotic power trip, putting your man in a vulnerable position.
What is the point of a strap-on?
If you think strap ons aren’t for you, think again. Strap-ons can be worn or received by people with penises or vaginas. These versatile dildos offer a chance to;
- Explore power play, pegging and even double penetration.
- They enable couples to experience different sizes and girths whilst staying with their existing partner.
- They even offer the chance to play out a threesome without physically having another person in the bedroom.
- Use them for vaginal sex, anal sex, blow jobs, and even masturbation.
What do I need to know before getting a strap-on?
Top five things to consider before getting a strap-on
- Understand what strap-ons are and what they can be used for
- Think about the type of sexual activity you want to use a strap-on for
- Decide on a budget before shopping around
- Consider ease of use – first timers will want a simple, less intimidating model to begin with
- If you have a partner, talk about these considerations and choose something together that you will both feel comfortable with
Featured Strap Ons
Lesbian Strap Ons
A lesbian strap-on can simply be known as a strap on. Strap ons are suitable for anybody, regardless of gender or indeed sexuality. A lesbian strap on refers to strap ons used by by two women to engage in penetration. Strap ons are usually a dildo attached to a harness. This is worn around the hips of the user to penetrate the other person.
However, some lesbian strap-ons require the wearer to have a vulva. This type of strap on is called a strapless strap on. It is worn using vaginal plug.
Strapless also means less intrusion into the play as there is nothing to come between the two lovers.
Strap Ons for Him
A strap on for him refers to a strap on worn by a person with a penis. A strap on for him will typically feature a hollow dildo meaning the wearer can become erect whilst being inside the strap on. These strap ons are designed for men, or individuals with penises, looking to engage in penetrative sex with a partner.
These types of strap ons are popular with individual that experience erectile dysfunction or have difficulty maintaining an erection. A strap on for him, in these cases, can help to maintain a healthy happy sex life with their partner.
Double Penetration
A double penetration strap on is like a strap on dildo only twice as much fun! With the ability to penetrate 2 naughty holes at one time, these strap ons are a serious bit of kit for intense pleasure. Double penetration strap-ons are suitable for any couple, of any gender and any sexual orientation. They are popular with people who wish to explore simultaneous penetration.
Using a double penetration strap on also provides the opportunity to role play a kinky threesome. Without actually needing a third person in the bedroom. Just like other dildos these double dildos come in every conceivable size and shape.
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